Extreme Intention

I grew up during a time when a child who was energetic and found it a challenge to focus was described as ‘fidgety’ or ‘has ants in the pants’ or ‘can’t sit still.’ While there was no test in the sixties for ADHD, the modern diagnosis describes 8-year-old me… and it’s still a challenge as my 64th birthday nears.

Whereas then I was constantly moving, had trouble remembering to do my homework, and would sit for hours reading the World Book Encyclopedia, now it shows up as tuning out in the middle of a discussion, continually pointing out things as I drive, and going deep down the Twitter or IMDB rabbit trail.

There are techniques I use to try and stay on track: look someone in the eye and ‘stack’ their comments to keep from tuning-out, make a ‘to do’ list each day and do the most important things first, practice mindfulness… intentionally thinking about what I’m doing – such as making the bed – to see how long I can go before my mind drifts down another path.

On the golf course, playing by myself, I put in AirPods and listen to podcasts or music. When I swim, it’s only me – no sound in my ears – and 45 minutes of counting freestyle strokes and trying to focus on prayer. During Zoom coaching, I don’t take any notes, looking straight ahead and actively listening to what a client is saying so that I don’t miss anything.

Nearly 40 years ago at a wedding, a lifelong friend I met in second grade told me: “You’re the best 20-second conversationalist I know.” I didn’t take it as a compliment then, and wouldn’t now; however, I do have a better understanding of the reason.

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Look Up

“It was a spiritual experience.”

“Thousands just stood in awe.”

“I definitely want to do it again.”

Those are real quotes from people I know.

They had not just had an audience with the pope… nor… watched Caitlin Clark swish from 35 feet… nor… attended their first Bruce Springsteen concert.

They had just seen the totality of the solar eclipse yesterday.

I imagine it was humbling to realize the small role our big blue marble plays in the expanse of the universe. Imagine if we could come together as one frequently – united for good – rather than wait until the moon does its thing again in 2044.

Side Note: Josh Groban did, in fact, have a religious experience this week, and afterward posted on Instagram: “Congregated at the church of Springsteen last night… and left feeling like my soul had taken a bath. Truly one of the best shows I’ve seen… He sounds incredible, he had us on our feet and punching the air, but the thing that really had me was his almost telepathic synergy with E Street. They are intertwined on a cellular level and it was an honor to see it live.” IYKYK

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Tempus Fugit

When the big game begins in a few hours, I’ll think back to Sunday, January 17, 1971. I clearly remember going to Mass that day. The pastor read the Gospel, gave an unexpectedly fast homily, and said, “The Super Bowl starts in two hours. Go Cowboys.” The Colts beat our hometown team that day – in a game that featured 12 players who would later be inducted into the Hall of Fame, including quarterbacks Johnny Unitas and Roger Staubach.

Less than four years earlier – a few months after Super Bowl I – the Beatles released “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band,” which included one of my favorite songs by the Fab Four: 

When I get older losing my hair
Many years from now
Will you still be sending me a valentine
Birthday greetings, bottle of wine?
If I’d been out till quarter to three
Would you lock the door?
Will you still need me, will you still feed me
When I’m sixty-four?

So here I am. Staring down my 64th birthday. Hair still full. Don’t drink. Haven’t seen quarter till three in decades. These days, years fly by a lot quicker than when I was a kid. While the fourth quarter is underway, I still see myself much younger… not even to halftime.

Perhaps that’s mental gymnastics. Perhaps it’s naïve. Perhaps it’s crazy. I prefer to believe it’s having a wife who still gives me birthday greetings, kids who open their door to me with a smile and hug, and – especially – being able to recall moments from 50+ years ago. 

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Lessons Learned

Part I of II

For the past 17 years, during December, I share the biggest lessons I took away throughout the year. During 2023, these were the best:

Knowing Thyself – In February, I heard about the Why Institute, which took Simon Sinek’s popular ‘Start with Why’ theory and constructed a way to measure the reason an individual does what they do. After taking the WHY.os Discovery I signed up, completed training, and became certified. In October, I attended the annual gathering in Albuquerque, where I met many coaches dedicated to helping others better understand themselves. I’ve delivered individual and team debriefings for more than 80 folks so far and want to add 120 more next year. It’s rewarding to help others better understand themselves by revealing their Why, How and What, and hearing, ‘Yes, that’s me!’ 

Teaming Up – Since 2010, I have worked closely with another coach… supporting each other on engagements within our individual accounts. In 2017, we added a third coach to the mix. This year, I vetted and deployed eight others at a single organization. Realizing that ‘separate, together’ is better than ‘single shingle,’ the original trio formed a new alliance last fall – LAH Insight, LLC – with the mission to collaborate with each other and serve larger entities. More to come soon.

Down Time – Kathy and I took all the precautions at the height of the pandemic, and I received every vaccine, including the latest in October. We successfully skipped Covid… until not feeling well the week before Thanksgiving and testing positive. The next 10 days were a slog, first with a severe head cold, cough, fever and chills for four days… then no energy (with lots of naps), before it departed our house. There seems to be an uptick in cases early this winter, and symptoms appear worse than the past couple of variants. Stay cautious and stay healthy. 

Clear View – We moved back into our home a year ago after a complete remodel, with replacing every window the only item to be completed, due to a lengthy backorder. On the morning of January 12, a crew of 17 arrived and quickly went to work removing 37 frames and installing much better energy efficient windows. It was a windy day and my gut said, ‘Wonder how that’s going to impact things?’… yet I trusted their experience and kept quiet. Big mistake! At the end of the day, our ‘new’ home was covered in dust. We spent weeks cleaning up the mess. They also ruined many of our new windowsills – and we had to repair them at an additional cost. The manufacturer made the window above our kitchen sink incorrectly, and an installer has come back twice, months apart, to replace it. Both times there was a different issue, and we’re still waiting for attempt number three. The most disheartening thing is we spoke to several other families who recently replaced windows and none of them had any problems. 

Just Ask – The rise of AI the past 12 months has companies quickly moving to deploy Large Language Models in their processes. Some experts believe this is a paradigm shift in productivity. Others suggest it’s a matter of time until robots take over. I played with ChatGPT early and found it to be a good starting point for idea generation. A few months ago, I heard about iClaude, which was created by former Open AI employees. It accesses more current information, accepts PDFs, and can analyze up to 75,000 words, so you could upload a book and iClaude will summarize it. While no one is certain where all this innovation leads, I attended a webinar during which the presenter shared this equation: HI x AI = AHI(2): Human Insight times Artificial Intelligence equals Additional Human Ideas. Sounds good to me. 

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Lessons Learned

Part II of II

Which One? – During the wrap-up meeting to conclude an engagement with an engineer client, their boss shared a technique his mentor used when someone offered a contrarian viewpoint: “Right now are you using engineering or opinioneering?” I like that.

Quick Change – In October, our son married a wonderful woman that he – wait for it – met in kindergarten. She moved away after fourth grade and they only crossed paths a few times. Fate brought them together again and they quickly fell in love. Best of all, from my seat, she has a two-year-old boy, so we became instant grandparents. Then more good news came this month: there’s a future member of the family arriving in August. Life is filled with surprises.  

Bad Picture – Obviously, we were excited to send Christmas cards to share photos with our family and friends. Kathy created them online and the box arrived at our doorstep on December 16, perfectly timed to address envelopes the following day for on-time arrival. When she opened it, I heard a gasp, then: ‘You’ve got to be kidding me!’ Seems the printer mistakenly sent us another family’s order. Which, of course, begs the question, who received our cards? – and – was this a one-time mistake or did many families have a similar ‘WTH’ moment? 

Just Believe – After many years wandering the pigskin wilderness, our beloved Texas Longhorns made the College Football Playoff. As we have attended nearly every home game since 2013 – being part of a tailgate team that feeds upward of 150 people – this is a magical time. It is also filled with sadness. Our good friend and tailgate partner Brian passed away in April following a brief illness, then just before the season, retired Texas Sports Information Director Bill Little died at age 81. In 1988, Bill told me I needed to meet the new media person in the Southwest Conference office. I did… the next day. We married 17 months later. I’m unsure what will happen on January 1 in the Sugar Bowl; however, I know we have two friends above who will have their Horns Up.

Easy Approach – I always end this with a suggestion for a worthy charitable cause. Throughout 2023, I took a different approach to giving. While I always believed food servers deserve 20% tips for their hard work, I upped that to 30% and more. Seems a good way to skip the overhead of nonprofits and give directly to those who need it.

Finally, as always, a quote about the importance of the season: “She was so busy doing Christmas, there wasn’t time to experience Christmas.” ~ Lori Copeland

Merry Christmas. Happy Holidays. Season’s Greetings. May 2024 be special for your family, may it bring Peace to the world… and continued success in all things. 

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