Major Assist

The NCAA Men’s Basketball Tournament continues tonight… and perhaps the most surprising remaining participant is Texas A&M. Not because they aren’t worthy; however, when you’re down 10 with less than 40 seconds remaining in your second round game, it’s unlikely you’ll win and advance. (‘Unlikely’ as in never happened before in the history of college basketball.)

Watching those moments unfold Sunday night – with Northern Iowa continually turning the ball over under the Texas A&M basket, including twice failing to execute the always sure-fire ‘bounce it off your opponent’s leg and out of bounds’ play – there was clear evidence of a lack of leadership for the Panthers.

(Why didn’t the player inbounding the ball run the baseline to create some space between himself and the defender, and give his teammates a better chance to get open? Why didn’t the coach tell them to throw the ball to the other end of the court, so, even if the Aggies intercepted, time would run off the clock? Basic situational plays high school teams practice.)

In moments of distress, someone has to have the presence of mind to take control – ‘Everybody be quiet and listen to me’ – and provide guidance on what needs to happen to ensure success.

Neither talent without instruction, nor instruction without talent can produce the perfect craftsman.” ~ Vitruvius

Former Students of Texas A&M University like to say, “Aggies Never Quit,” and in this instance – even with the unprecedented help from UNI – it was clear their basketball team adhered to that long-standing mantra. (Not so much for the dozens of Tweets I saw from media during the last two minutes of the game congratulating Northern Iowa and commenting on the Aggies’ missed opportunity.)

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

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Missed Assignment

When our youngest walks across the stage in 10 weeks in her cap and gown to receive her high school diploma, I will be happy to see that phase of our life complete. It’s not because I’m anxious to be empty nesters – although Kathy might shout ‘Hallelujah!’ the moment she finishes making sack lunch #5,940. It’s because, hopefully, that will bring an end to all the drama we’ve watched unfold the past 20 years among our kids’ circle of friends.

These range from ‘he said-she said’ gossip, to ‘I’m not speaking to him anymore’ conflicts, to ‘why do you have to spend so much time with her?’ rivalries. It got really old… and that’s not even counting all the teachers and administrators that sometimes made me question just who the adults were in the room.

Of course, I’m not so naïve as to think these things won’t continue in college and into her career. She’ll have to deal with the ‘I don’t want to sit with him at football games’ situations beginning in the fall, and transition into ignoring ‘Let me warn you about Susie in accounting’ comments when she starts working.

During childhood, some youngsters discover that creating stress around them leads to attention and, ultimately, they are rewarded for this behavior… possibly because their parents grow weary of dealing with it. The approach worked so well, they carried it into adulthood – perhaps unintentionally and subconsciously… nevertheless disrupting everyday peace in the workplace.

It’s as if those folks feed off the turmoil… so they keep flaming the conflict fire. Too bad they never learned the fourth ‘R’ – Reaction – and mastered the skill of controlling theirs.

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